MY TRIBUTE TO MY GRANDMA

Growing up as a child, I use to visit my grandma with my parents, although I was not really brought up by her. When I became a grown up, I then started to visit her myself more regularly. I spent only a little time with my grandma because we lived in a city far away from where she was staying; we only visited during Christmas periods. I have come to know what a lovely woman she is. I am honored to get to say a few words about my grandmother. She was an outgoing and fun-loving woman who enjoyed the company of her friends and family. Grandma was someone who doesn’t discriminate between her grandchildren. 

Grandma treated all her grandchildren with the same amount of love and care not minding whether we were from rich or poor homes. Grandma understood that life is beyond the now. Hence, she always advised us to desist from wrong habits and to do only what was right. Grandma was a great cook. We always enjoyed her delicious meals whenever we visited. Grandma wouldn’t bear watching us stay hungry. Never!!! She would do everything possible to make sure you have more than enough to eat.

My grandma was a disciplinarian, who never spared the rod. That although was for our own good. She would always correct us in a way she felt was best for us.

Grandma was a very hard working woman. She believed in hard work and taught us how to be hard working.  

Grandma had a beautiful heart. She loved God and loved people. She would do everything to bring all her family together and establish peace among all family members. If only all grandmas would be like her, then grandchildren would live never to forget their grandmas.

I thank God for giving us such a wonderful grandma. Though you are gone, you will never be forgotten.

With love from my heart, I say Adieu (Goodbye) grandma. Till we meet again on the other side of eternity.

Your granddaughter,

       Chinenye Godgift Ogedegbe

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Sosoliso Plane Crash Survivor Graduates with A First class From U.S.

This lady is strong, courageous, beautiful and a super star. I can't imagine how many people she has inspired with her story and her dream come true. She has successfully proven to the whole world that what is limiting you back is yourself.

"Sometimes life hits you on the head with a brick, don't lose faith, am convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did, you've got to find what you love"
                                                 -Steve Jobs  

Nkechi Okwuchi is one of the two survivors of 2005 Sosoliso Port Harcourt bound flight which took the lives of 107 people, including her close friend who was sited next to her. Some persons has gone through what she is going through but do not wish to live again.

She was a student of Loyola Jesuit College at the time, a boarding high school in Abuja and was on her way home to go have some good time with her family for the holiday, little did she know that this disaster was going to occur.
One of the most popular people who lost their lives in the crash, with NKechi  was also late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya. Nkechi Okwuchi graduated with a First Class degree from University of Thomas Houston, Texas on May 16th, 2015.

NKechi has had more than 100 surgeries, including skin grafts in the US as a result of the severe burns all over her body. Doctors placed pins to support her hands but this didn’t stop her from reaching for greatness. Despite all this, she still graduated with a First Class degree from University of Thomas Houston, Texas on May 16th, 2015.

To watch her graduation speech follow the link below: https://www.facebook.com/KechiOkwuchiTrust/videos/751042158345834/

She was also inducted into 6 academic honour societies, and was the most outstanding student for her major in Economics.
NKechi appeared on the 12th season of America’s Got Talent, and narrated her story to the world.
She said: “I want to share my voice with AGT. I was in a plane crash when I was 16 years old, which took the life of 107 out of 109, which left two survivors. I was one of the two survivors.”
Responding to Simeon Cowell’s question on how she has managed to deal with the trauma, she said, “Lying down in the hospital bed with bandages from head to foot, music was my escape and that’s why it means so much to me.”

Wow!!! what a brave heart, most people who have gone through this never even wish to live again but here comes a brave warrior who just didn't live alone but became an inspiration to the whole world. If for any reason you want to give up on yourself, dreams and visions just remember this lady and be inspired to make that difference you were born to make.
I hope you enjoyed this little piece? please drop your comments below, follow me, and share as well you never  can tell who you might be saving.
Till I come your way again....its your girl Topsy Gift....saying Bye for now.

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HOW TO BECOME A CHAMPION

           

Hello dear, are you having an ambition of becoming the best in your field or area of calling or becoming a master and a professional of your skills and talents? I want to say to you that can achieve that ambition and you can gain the mastery in any area of life you choose. I will give you a little tip that might help you.

Imagine you want to be a singer, not just any kind of singer but one that everyone would want to reckon with. Start drawing close to music people.

Make friends with someone who can play instruments and start learning. Don't wait until you make all the money before you start working to achieve the big picture.

Some people feel that they must have all the money needed to start up a vision before it can be successful, no, the moment you have a goal try and break them into pieces and start working to achieve parts before whole.

                                                                                    
                                                                                                                  

Some others also feel strongly that if a government is bad/corrupt that alone can stop them from becoming someone in life, while others look at their parental status/ background as a reason why they cannot attain success.

                                                                                 

Never sit down to blame your government, background or parents. It won't help you but rather you will just keep getting hurt. Make up your mind to be a personality and a world changer and start being productive.

"An important decision I made was to resist playing the blame game. The day I realized that I am in charge of how I will approach problems in my life, that things will turn out better or worse because of me and nobody else, that was the day I knew I would be a happier and healthier person. And that was the day I knew I could truly build a life that matter."

     

                    _Steve Goodier

For you to achieve success in life, you have to see solutions where people are seeing problems. If you want to be an exceptional singer/ instrumentalist, Constant rehearsals and seriousness will make you stand on the same stage with your idol (hero/heroine) someday.

Trust me if you do rehearsals for 5 hours everyday in just 5 years you will gain the mastery in that field. But if you can't do 5 hours, no problem don't be scared maybe you can do 3 hours but it simply means that it will take you 9years for you to gain the mastery in that field.

      “A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.”    

                                                _Charles Darwin

This rule is called ' The rule of 10,000 hours by Malcolm gladwell' The principle holds that 10,000 hours of deliberate practice are needed to become world class in any field.

I hope you learnt something from this little piece of mine. Remain blessed and thank you so much for reading.

ne would want to reckon with. Start drawing close to music people.
Make friends with someone who can play instruments and start learning. Don't wait until you make all the money before you start working to achieve the big picture.
Some people feel that they must have all the money needed to start up a vision before it can be successful, no, the moment you have a goal try and break them into pieces and start working to achieve parts before whole.

Some others also feel strongly that if a government is bad/corrupt that alone can stop them from becoming someone in life, while others look at their parental status/ background as a reason why they cannot attain success.

Never sit down to blame your government, background or parents. It won't help you but rather you will just keep getting hurt. Make up your mind to be a personality and a world changer and start being productive.

For you to achieve success in life, you have to see solutions where people are seeing problems. If you want to be an exceptional singer/ instrumentalist, Constant rehearsals and seriousness will make you stand on the same stage with your idol(hero/heroine) someday.

Trust me if you do rehearsals for 5 hours everyday in just 5 years you will gain the mastery in that field. But if you can't do 5 hours, no problem don't be scared maybe you can do 3 hours but it simply means that it will take you 9years for you to gain the mastery in that field.
This rule is called ' The rule of 10,000 hours by Malcolm gladwell' The principle holds that 10,000 hours of deliberate practice are needed to become world class in any field.
I hope you learnt something from this little piece of mine. Remain blessed and thank you so much for reading.

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THE REASON WHY YOU DON'T HAVE EVERYTHING

 You know it is true that God made us unique and that we all  are special in our own ways. He gave us all that we need to succeed in life, such as wisdom, the power to will, to love, to admire, to create and build etc. But in all I have come to realise that we don't always have everything. Some people will say what is she talking about? Well, I am saying that we don't all have everything we need but if you believe that you have everything, just take a close(physical) look at yourself now, I mean your body and all that it entails.

When you are done listing and looking at what you have physically, then look at what you have inwardly that only you might really see or feel. things like your reasoning ability, your ability to assimilate faster/slower, temperament, dogged/or not etc. Can you see now that you don't have all that you need? The truth is that no matter what a man has in life, there will always be something that is lacking. The reason God made you different from me is so that I can love, and care for you, So I can appreciate you and embrace you. It is so that I can prevent you from harm. Because whatever gift  you have is Important and needed by me and the world at large.

If God did not make you different from others, you wouldn't be able to even love or be humble. Because your pride wouldn't have even allowed you to associate with others and that alone can sparkle up a lot of problems in the world. Somebody would say how? what do you mean by that? ok let me explain. If I alone can survive in the world without anybody's assistance and without getting anything from anyone, then there wouldn't have been need for others. And I won't love people, neither will I have relationships.
God cares so much about our relationship with others here on earth. He wants us to live happily as friends and one people irrespective of what we lack. It is his heart beat and desire to all live and love one another.

If the whole world is not like that, it simply means that I can just wake up and kill you at anytime because you don't mean anything to me. People in the world today are complaining of corruption, poverty, sicknesses, armed robbery, prostitution, hunger/famine, poor health facilities, lack of constant light, bad governance, poor educational system (for those who don't have) bad roads (for those who don't have) a lot of injustice and atrocities. But have you come to think of it that if we all have everything we need in life it would have been more disastrous than it is now? Because no one would want to appreciate the efforts of others.

The reason God made us different from others, is so that we can love one another and share ideas together. So that we can appreciate each other. If I lack something and you have It, I will patronise you when you produce it and by so doing we can build a relationship.

The reason nations trade with each other is because they don't all have the same resources. There are a lot of people in the world today that are racists and are so full of themselves. For God to humble them to an extent he has put some gifts in other people that they themselves don't have. And these gifts are so important that he can't do without them.  so all he has to do is to look for a way to go get close to the other person so as to benefit from his or her gifts. Similarly, a lot of nations are like that. They don't like other nations but because those nations have got what they lack they don't have any choice or option  than to still trade with them.

So you see, God did this intentionally to humble people/nations and to make them value others. To appreciate people's potentials, gifts, talents, their natural resources and most of all to learn to love and accept people the way they are.

 God knew that if He gives everyone and every nation all that they need or better put if He doesn't  make them different from each other, there will be more problem in the world. His original intension was to make us united, to love one another and embrace our differences. Because if a nation or people have all that they need in life then they would begin to think that they are superior and better than others, by so doing begin to oppress others.

These are some of the reasons we don't have all that we need, that is why we are different from others. Our uniqueness is not a weakness but a strong point to make others to love, appreciate, and also protect us because when they seek to destroy us and remembers what we have, that can benefit them and the world at large, they will be left with no option than to have a second thought.  Although people still fight and destroy others because they have not realised the essence of their uniqueness. But I pray God forgives them and open their eyes to truth.

So please love and appreciate all men because we are important to each other. I Hope you enjoyed this little piece of mine? please drop your comments, and questions if any. Thank you so much for spending some time to go through this. I LOVE YOU ALL. God bless you. I remain your humble friend,
  Topsy Gift

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 TIFU MY WHOLE LIFE. MY REGRETS AS A 46 YEARS OLD, AND  MY ADVICE TO OTHERS AT A CROSSROAD TIFU.  (Today I F*cked Up)

Dear, friends I have a story to share with you and indeed you are going to be blown away. Don't go any where until you are done reading this story:

Please carefully read this story, and see how remarkable it is and the reason you need not to waste your time which is your life. Take a decision today never to waste your life but rather invest your time. 

Hi, I my name’s John. I’ve been lurking for a while, but I’ve finally made an account to post this. I need to get my life off my chest. About me. I’m a 46 year old banker and I have been living my whole life the opposite of how I wanted.

All my dreams, my passion, gone. In a steady 9-7 job. 6 days a week. For 26 years. I repeatedly chose the safe path for everything, which eventually changed who I was. Today I found out my wife has been cheating on me for the last 10 years. My son feels nothing for me. I realised I missed my father’s funeral FOR NOTHING. I didn’t complete my novel, travelling the world, helping the homeless. All these things I thought I knew to be a certainty about myself when i was in my late teens and early twenties. If my younger self had met me today, I would have punched myself in the face. I’ll get to how those dreams were crushed soon.

Let’s start with a description of me when I was 20. It seemed only yesterday when I was sure I was going to change the world. People loved me, and I loved people. I was innovative, creative, spontaneous, risk-taking and great with people. I had two dreams.

The first, was writing a utopic/dystopic book. The second, was travelling the world and helping the poor and homeless. I had been dating my wife for four years by then. Young love. She loved my spontaneity, my energy, my ability to make people laugh and feel loved. I knew my book was going to change the world. I would show the perspective of the ‘bad’ and the ‘twisted’, showing my viewers that everybody thinks differently, that people never think what the do is wrong. I was 70 pages through when i was 20. I am still 70 pages in, at 46.By 20, I had backpacking around New Zealand and the Philippines. I planned to do all of Asia, then Europe, then America (I live in Australia by the way). To date, I have only been to New Zealand and the Philippines.

Now, we get to where it all went wrong. My biggest regrets. I was 20. I was the only child. I needed to be stable. I needed to take that graduate job, which would dictate my whole life. To devote my entire life in a 9-7 job. What was I thinking? How could I live, when the job was my life? After coming home, I would eat dinner, prepare my work for the following day, and sleep at 10pm, to wake up at 6am the following day. God, I can’t remember the last time I’ve made love to my wife. Yesterday, my wife admitted to cheating on me for the last 10 years. 10 years. That seems like a long time, but i can’t comprehend it. It doesn’t even hurt. She says it’s because I’ve changed. I’m not the person I was. What have I been doing in the last 10 years? Outside of work, I really can’t say anything. Not being a proper husband. Not being ME. Who am I? What happened to me? I didn’t even ask for a divorce, or yell at her, or cry. I felt NOTHING.

Now I can feel a tear as I write this. But not because my wife has been cheating on me, but because I am now realising I have been dying inside. What happened to that fun-loving, risk-taking, energetic person that was me, hungering to change the world? I remember being asked on a date by the most popular girl in the school, but declining her for my now-wife. God, I was really popular with the girls in high school. In university/college too. But i stayed loyal. I didn’t explore. I studied everyday. Remember all that backpacking and book-writing I told you about?

That was all in the first few years of college. I worked part-time and splurged all that I had earned. Now, I save every penny. I don’t remember a time I spend anything on anything fun. On anything for myself. What do I even want now?My father passed ten years ago. I remember getting calls from mom, telling me he was getting sicker and sicker. I was getting busier and busier, on the verge of a big promotion. I kept putting my visit off, hoping in my mind he would hold on. He died, and I got my promotion. I haven’t seen him in 15 years.

When he died, I told myself it didn’t matter what I didn’t see him. Being an atheist, I rationalized that being dead, it wouldn’t matter anyway. WHAT WAS I THINKING?

Rationalizing everything, making excuses to put things off. Excuses. Procrastination. It all leads to one thing, nothing.

I rationalized that financial security was the most important thing. I now know, that it definitely is not. I regret doing nothing with my energy, when I had it. My passions. My youth. I regret letting my job take over my life. I regret being an awful husband, a money-making machine. I regret not finishing my novel, not travelling the world. Not being emotionally there for my son. Being a damn emotionless wallet. If you’re reading this, and you have a whole life ahead of you, please. Don’t procrastinate. Don’t leave your dreams for later. Relish in your energy, your passions. Don’t stay on the internet with all your spare time (unless your passion needs it).

Please, do something with your life while your young. DO NOT settle down at 20. DO NOT forget your friends, your family. Yourself. Do NOT waste your life. Your ambitions. Like I did mine. Do not be like me. Sorry for the long post, just had to get it out there. TL:DR I realised I let procrastination and money stop me from pursuing my passions when I was younger, and now I am dead inside, old and tired.

This is an amazing story, the reason you should read, listen and watch peoples account is that, you can learn from their mistakes and pick their courage, then run with it. Not for criticism, because everyone has a story to tell, if you don't have now, you might have later.

"For you to make a difference on earth, you need to be focused and have a strong will"

                                                                          -Topsy Gift

You know life is full of distractions, if you really want to have fun all the days of your life, the world has it all to give to you. At that moment nothing else matters to you. Even those giving you good advice might seem an enemy or envious people to you, but not until reality sets in front of you before you will know how that you have been wasting your life. If you want to invest your life and time, then you need  to restrain from a lot of life's distractions and distractors. Being focused and strong willed can help you withstand distractions and distractors. It can help you achieve your set goals. So be a man of focus and strong will so that you will be able to overcome all distractions and produce meaningful results in your life and in your generation.

"One of the greatest help you can give to yourself, is to kill distractions"

                                                                        - Topsy Gift

Thanks for stopping by to read this story, I hope you learnt something new? Go and impact your world. God bless you.

      TIME, ONE OF GOD'S GREATEST GIFTS TO MAN

Most people wonder why others are having results and they don't have. Results are only for time investors not for time wasters. Show me a man who has results without knowing how to invest time, I will show you a failure. Because he needs time management to maintain his results{wealth}.

For most of the big{rich} men we see in our society today, if they are not investing their time personally to produce results, then there are people they must have employed who are investing the time on their behalf to have that result. No man ever succeeded without acknowledging time and its importance to humans.

The reason why time is one of the greatest gift God has given to man is that, It has been given to all men equally. God did not give some people higher than others. God was kind enough to give the same measure of time to all men. But the difference between people and the products{results}they have is in how well they use their time. Now lets look at the definitions of time.

Time is the indefinite continued progress of existence and events that occur in apparently irreversible succession from the past through the present to the future. Can you see how time here progresses and is also irreversible? So for every time you waste you cannot get it back. It is not just that for every time you waste you can't get it back, but for every moment the clock ticks its never regressive but progressive.

Oh God! I wish people could understand how important time is to everyone on planet earth. The amazing thing here is that time has been given to both, the Christians, Buddhist, Muslims, atheist and in fact, to all men. God wasn't partial.

He didn't  give it to a group of people in greater measures than others. Oh! what a merciful God!

Time melts away but a lot of people are still ignorant of it.  Please don't allow your time to melt away before your very own eyes. Always invest your time into producing results. Your worth is measured by how much time you invest into producing results. Lets look at another definition of time.

Time is the indefinite continued progress of existence and events in the past, present, and future regarded as a whole. The definition of time here tells you how much it doesn't wait for any individual who decides to waste it. Time can never wait for the good, bad, or ugly.

Time does not want to know if you are black or white, if you are pretty or ugly, if you fat, or thin, if you are from a wealthy home or a poor one, if you are tall or short. My dear friends, time has no respect for anyone. Time is only answerable to those who make use of it. Some people might wonder how time is answerable to those who make good use of it. I am going to explain that to you.

If you are a keyboardist and you say to yourself I want to learn all the minor scales on keyboard within one month, and you went ahead,  investing that time everyday learning and perfecting your skills, you sleep just 4 hours out of 24 hours. And even before the one month is over you learnt all the minor scales you have ever heard of and even went ahead to invent your own. That is how you beat the time and that is how time respects you for being the man of your word.

Decisions are very difficult to make but brave men make the greatest decisions of their lives. Great leaders are never time wasters, they are time investors. For you to be an effective leader you have to be a time investor. For men reckon only to people who have results.

If a 10 year old child invest his or her time and make a products out of it, the world will forget that there is a 60 year old man leaving the next door after that child. Why? because people want to associate with men of results. Men who have something to offer to humanity.

 Take the decision today to make your every seconds, minute, hour, day, and year productive. I bet you, you will never regret it. If the people you call unbelievers are being productive with their time, how much more you who are called by his name?

"I would I could stand on a busy corner, hat in hand, and beg people to throw me all their wasted hours"
                                                                                                   -Bernard Berenson

A man was wishing that he could stand in a busy corner to beg people to give him their wasted time, so he could invest it into producing results that can help humanity. But the same time that has been given to all men equally, some waste their own time doing what will not profit humanity. In the same time, some pastors are using it to play politics in church, some members are fasting and praying for 21days of miracles. Some churches are holding irrelevant religious activities that do not teach members how they could start being earthly relevant.

I also wish I can penetrate the heart of everyone on planet earth that is not yet using their time wisely, to pour out my heart to them, telling them how time flies and why it should not be taken for granted.

If you wasted any seconds, minutes, hour, day, year, and you can't account for it, then you have just wasted life. Because time is life and life is time. You have to learn to take charge of your time which is your life. Don't allow it fly away without you making good use of it.

Time is also deceptive, that is why some people are always carried away by it. Build your everyday to be a productive day. Before you sleep draft out things you want to achieve the next day, don't allow yourself to be carried away by the glamour and distractions on planet earth. You must be a critical thinker.
It is only the lazy man that does not know that time is deceptive and smart. For example, a man has scheduled to do a particular thing and its 20 minutes to the time, for him  to do that thing, he will say Oh the time is still far let me sleep a little more. And at the end of the day, that same thing wasn't achieved. He then moves it forward, for next time. Procrastinators are time wasters, they do not take charge of the time that is their life.

The question is "How do I invest and take charge of my time?"
Well, In my next article I will show you practical ways on how to go about taking charge of your time which is your life. Thanks so much for stopping by to read through this my little piece. Hope it was helpful?  

     THE GREATEST SHOCK I HAVE EVER RECEIVED

At the embassy of Ukraine in Nigeria, in 2016, I received the greatest shock of my life. It was so shocking that I never believed that so many people could live in such an ignorance. It was such a shock, that could make one wonder if people really know what life is all about.

But before I go into details telling you about the greatest shock of which I speak, let me in a quick and a light mood tell you about the word "PURPOSE". I took some time to study this word and realise how important it is to humanity and how little it has been made to be. Well, I know some of you might not agree with me and some might agree. But nevertheless, lets continue.

When we talk about purpose most people don't seem to understand. The word "PURPOSE" can be defined as the reason a thing is made , exist or created. Do you know that it is purpose that tells you the COURSE to study, and the university suitable for that particular course? But in our society today you will find out that people who are called to be doctors are busy studying road construction, singers are studying engineering, bankers, lawyers etc.. The way the world system operates has engulfed most of us, such that people no longer remember the reason for their existence. We are all blown away by the vanities of life. Living a life for emptiness and frivolities, so much so that we don't even remember to ask ourselves "WHO AM I, WHY AM I HERE?" What a world!!!

Now talking about the greatest shock I received in the embassy of Ukraine in Nigeria in 2016. I carried out a quick research on a student off late and I discovered that most people don't even know the reason they are created. Have you taken time to ask yourself why people go to school to study a particular course? OK let me tell you about my research. While at the embassy of Ukraine in Nigeria, in 2016 I took a quick interview on a boy who was going to Ukraine to study without him knowing I was interviewing him. I asked him some life personal and intelligent questions, please read our conversation.

What course do you want to study in Ukraine? I asked and he replied and said to me, road construction and I went further to ask again why do you want to study road construction? His response was, because my elder brother choose it for me and he told me its lucrative.

For some minute I was wowed and astonished because that guy is lost already. I asked few other persons and I was really amazed at the response I got. Some said "I am going to study medicine because my father told me to study it", Some others said "I am going study computer engineering because I want to make quick money by hacking into peoples account and also I can make genuine money because we are in a COMPUTER AGE where every body wants Internet ,such that I will learn programming and come back to Africa to make money" etc. and many more. My whole body could not stand my shaking hands, winkling eyes, stamping feet, and I found it difficult to even swallow saliva.

I just realised that most people don't study a particular course because it's in relation to their purpose. They think that when they become doctors they will be highly respected in our society and be well paid, if their countries are in need of doctors. They also believed that when they become lawyers they will save their father's land and fight those intimidating him.  And so on,

When I was done with my research right there I just knew that our generations is filled with more people who are ignorant of their purpose than those who know why they exist. How can a man exist because of SELFISHNESS?

Take a good look at the world we live in today, and tell me out of the about 7.5 billion people in the world how many are living a purposeful life? You will be amazed that out of every 10 persons, only one may know why he or she exists. Oh my God!!!  Now ask yourself am I among the very few persons that know why they exist? And please make sure you get an answer for yourself.

I left those kids without saying a word because I was also a victim of the same society. Could it be that the purpose for your existence was to go to school, get a good job earn salary, get married, raise your kids, and die?  well, I don't think so, come to think of it, do you know that when everyone is living for the very purpose they were created, the world will be a better place because there will be low rate of jealousy, greed, armed robbery, bribery, prostitution, racism, egocentrism, and corruption etc.

It is so pathetic to know that billions of people in the world today don't know why they are here on earth. A life well spent is one spent in fulfilment of purpose not because you are a president, governor, senator, wealthy, have great grandchildren, have 20 degrees, etc.

If you have all that and never fulfilled purpose am sorry to announce to you that you just lived another mans life. I get so emotional when people tell me that they are living a purposeful life because they have acquired wealth, are famous, and are in authority or because they are donating to the orphanage.

What a misconception of what purpose is!!! it is so wrong for any man to think that purpose is all about SELF GRATIFICATION. This menace has eaten deep into our society and the world at large. What a world where no father, mother, teacher, friend and even most pastors don't remind their members that they are here for a purpose and they should hasten up to discover it and fulfil it. Because that is when they would be regarded to  have lived a fulfilled life.
This situation is very serious and needs urgent attention before it gets worse than it is already. But what then is the way out of this deception? please check out my next article as I give practical ways to come out of this misconception and delusion.   

THE NEED TO DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE

       

      THE NEED TO DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE

Purpose as important as it is, a lot of people still take it for granted. People haven't yet realised that the reason for their existence is because they have a role to play in the lives of others. Now let me in a quick and a light mood tell you about the word "PURPOSE". I took some time to study this word and realised how important it is to human life and how little it has been made to be. well, I know some of you might not agree with me and some might disagree. But nevertheless, lets continue.

Purpose, some say its a reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. well it's simple and clear that purpose is the reason a thing is made.

If you agree that its true, then  it simply means that purpose is the reason you are made and should live for. So having known what purpose is, now ask yourself some life transforming questions.

Who am I and why I my here on earth? You know what, most times the way the world system operates can get you confused and make you think that life is all about certificates, money, power, possessions, getting married, having kids, getting a job and then having fun. Come on people! How long do we sit under this deception of the world system?

We need to wake up and readjust our mind-sets, set it to the direction of our purpose and calling. Any man who sees life as just for meant for eating and drinking is already a failure, for life is much more than that. Living for possessions and power and the rest is nothing but living a mundane life and a life of emptiness.

Purpose precedes creation, it simply means that before you came to being purpose was first considered. So your utmost priority in life is not power, possessions, getting married, having kids, going to school, getting certificate and having money but to live to discover purpose and fulfil it.

I don't think that a man would create a thing just for that same thing to while away its time doing what it was not made for. To me, it would mean that the creator would have wasted his resources, energy, time  and the greatest of all, intellectual capacity. Because a lot of brainstorming was involved in creating that particular thing to suit its purpose. You need to know who you are and what you have been called to do here on earth.

If you live on this planet earth without fulfilling purpose you just lived another mans life and you also wasted your time on earth. I know that most people would be wondering and asking themselves how can I discover who I am? never to worry I have just have two ways on how you can discover who you are.

• Go back to your creator and ask him who you are and why you were brought here on earth. Because it is only him that have the accurate answer to your questions. When you buy an iPhone and it develops a problem, for you to fix it properly you need to take it to the same company that produced it. In the same vein, if you are having problem finding out your purpose, you should go to your creator.

• Doing what you love to do, look inward and search for that same thing that you can do without remembering time and food. Check yourself properly, what is it that you love to do without looking at time and without being forced to do it? what is it that you love to do that even when not paid you still want to do it and you derive so much joy doing. Now having known this and discovered who you are, please don't forget this quote:

                             

 “Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick, don’t lose faith, am convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did, you’ve got to find what you love”

                                                                      -Steve jobs

Steve jobs was a school drop out and he went into doing what gave him joy and even though he is dead, Apple products still speak of the tremendous effort he put into doing what he loved to do. You know what! please know that your purpose is not selfish but its for the benefit of  humanity. He vowed to create something that would give joy to humans and help them live a better life and that was exactly what he did.

He never dedicated his life to emptiness. You know what, one interesting thing about the quote above is that it talks about you not someone else. It helps you to focus on your potentials and it also reminds you about the ups and downs of life. 

Most times life doesn't offer  you what you deserve but what you need to get to where you are going. So take this bold step and start doing what you love to do. You never know the millions of people you will be saving. Don't also forget this quote it can help you to hold on much longer.

                "Winners never quit and quitters never win"

                                                       -Vince Lombardi

Thomas Edison failed for 99 times trying to light up his world by producing the electric bulb for humanity and at the 100th time he succeeded. He could have given up at the first attempt when it didn't work, but he was pained by the lack of something that could light up the world. He therefore went ahead to solve the problem of darkness for humanity. So this is just for you to know that you are never considered to be a failure when you fall and stand but you are only considered a failure when you fall and remain in the same position.

If peradventure you are doing a particular thing and you lack the finance to continue, please don't give up on yourself and don't go about complaining about it. Instead, you can get a job make some money and then come back to complete that same thing. If Thomas Edison had given up or had gone about complaining, I don't think he would have been able to complete his tax.

In life, there will always be ups and downs. Please don't forget, let it not be your discouragement but let it be your strength. Forget about all the distractions around you and focus to fulfilling the reason why you are here on earth because that's the essence of your existence. If you leave this earth without fulfilling your purpose, you just lived a wasteful life and you just wasted your time. Please discover your purpose and live it to the fullest. Remember, the greatest tragedy in life is not death but a life without a FULFILLED PURPOSE.