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ITV Abuja Interview with Topsy Gift

ITV Abuja Interview with Topsy Gift

THE REASON WHY YOU DON'T HAVE EVERYTHING

 You know it is true that God made us unique and that we all  are special in our own ways. He gave us all that we need to succeed in life, such as wisdom, the power to will, to love, to admire, to create and build etc. But in all I have come to realise that we don't always have everything. Some people will say what is she talking about? Well, I am saying that we don't all have everything we need but if you believe that you have everything, just take a close(physical) look at yourself now, I mean your body and all that it entails.

When you are done listing and looking at what you have physically, then look at what you have inwardly that only you might really see or feel. things like your reasoning ability, your ability to assimilate faster/slower, temperament, dogged/or not etc. Can you see now that you don't have all that you need? The truth is that no matter what a man has in life, there will always be something that is lacking. The reason God made you different from me is so that I can love, and care for you, So I can appreciate you and embrace you. It is so that I can prevent you from harm. Because whatever gift  you have is Important and needed by me and the world at large.

If God did not make you different from others, you wouldn't be able to even love or be humble. Because your pride wouldn't have even allowed you to associate with others and that alone can sparkle up a lot of problems in the world. Somebody would say how? what do you mean by that? ok let me explain. If I alone can survive in the world without anybody's assistance and without getting anything from anyone, then there wouldn't have been need for others. And I won't love people, neither will I have relationships.
God cares so much about our relationship with others here on earth. He wants us to live happily as friends and one people irrespective of what we lack. It is his heart beat and desire to all live and love one another.

If the whole world is not like that, it simply means that I can just wake up and kill you at anytime because you don't mean anything to me. People in the world today are complaining of corruption, poverty, sicknesses, armed robbery, prostitution, hunger/famine, poor health facilities, lack of constant light, bad governance, poor educational system (for those who don't have) bad roads (for those who don't have) a lot of injustice and atrocities. But have you come to think of it that if we all have everything we need in life it would have been more disastrous than it is now? Because no one would want to appreciate the efforts of others.

The reason God made us different from others, is so that we can love one another and share ideas together. So that we can appreciate each other. If I lack something and you have It, I will patronise you when you produce it and by so doing we can build a relationship.

The reason nations trade with each other is because they don't all have the same resources. There are a lot of people in the world today that are racists and are so full of themselves. For God to humble them to an extent he has put some gifts in other people that they themselves don't have. And these gifts are so important that he can't do without them.  so all he has to do is to look for a way to go get close to the other person so as to benefit from his or her gifts. Similarly, a lot of nations are like that. They don't like other nations but because those nations have got what they lack they don't have any choice or option  than to still trade with them.

So you see, God did this intentionally to humble people/nations and to make them value others. To appreciate people's potentials, gifts, talents, their natural resources and most of all to learn to love and accept people the way they are.

 God knew that if He gives everyone and every nation all that they need or better put if He doesn't  make them different from each other, there will be more problem in the world. His original intension was to make us united, to love one another and embrace our differences. Because if a nation or people have all that they need in life then they would begin to think that they are superior and better than others, by so doing begin to oppress others.

These are some of the reasons we don't have all that we need, that is why we are different from others. Our uniqueness is not a weakness but a strong point to make others to love, appreciate, and also protect us because when they seek to destroy us and remembers what we have, that can benefit them and the world at large, they will be left with no option than to have a second thought.  Although people still fight and destroy others because they have not realised the essence of their uniqueness. But I pray God forgives them and open their eyes to truth.

So please love and appreciate all men because we are important to each other. I Hope you enjoyed this little piece of mine? please drop your comments, and questions if any. Thank you so much for spending some time to go through this. I LOVE YOU ALL. God bless you. I remain your humble friend,
  Topsy Gift

Topsygift platform. : Building Minds By Topsy Gift

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 TIFU MY WHOLE LIFE. MY REGRETS AS A 46 YEARS OLD, AND  MY ADVICE TO OTHERS AT A CROSSROAD TIFU.  (Today I F*cked Up)

Dear, friends I have a story to share with you and indeed you are going to be blown away. Don't go any where until you are done reading this story:

Please carefully read this story, and see how remarkable it is and the reason you need not to waste your time which is your life. Take a decision today never to waste your life but rather invest your time. 

Hi, I my name’s John. I’ve been lurking for a while, but I’ve finally made an account to post this. I need to get my life off my chest. About me. I’m a 46 year old banker and I have been living my whole life the opposite of how I wanted.

All my dreams, my passion, gone. In a steady 9-7 job. 6 days a week. For 26 years. I repeatedly chose the safe path for everything, which eventually changed who I was. Today I found out my wife has been cheating on me for the last 10 years. My son feels nothing for me. I realised I missed my father’s funeral FOR NOTHING. I didn’t complete my novel, travelling the world, helping the homeless. All these things I thought I knew to be a certainty about myself when i was in my late teens and early twenties. If my younger self had met me today, I would have punched myself in the face. I’ll get to how those dreams were crushed soon.

Let’s start with a description of me when I was 20. It seemed only yesterday when I was sure I was going to change the world. People loved me, and I loved people. I was innovative, creative, spontaneous, risk-taking and great with people. I had two dreams.

The first, was writing a utopic/dystopic book. The second, was travelling the world and helping the poor and homeless. I had been dating my wife for four years by then. Young love. She loved my spontaneity, my energy, my ability to make people laugh and feel loved. I knew my book was going to change the world. I would show the perspective of the ‘bad’ and the ‘twisted’, showing my viewers that everybody thinks differently, that people never think what the do is wrong. I was 70 pages through when i was 20. I am still 70 pages in, at 46.By 20, I had backpacking around New Zealand and the Philippines. I planned to do all of Asia, then Europe, then America (I live in Australia by the way). To date, I have only been to New Zealand and the Philippines.

Now, we get to where it all went wrong. My biggest regrets. I was 20. I was the only child. I needed to be stable. I needed to take that graduate job, which would dictate my whole life. To devote my entire life in a 9-7 job. What was I thinking? How could I live, when the job was my life? After coming home, I would eat dinner, prepare my work for the following day, and sleep at 10pm, to wake up at 6am the following day. God, I can’t remember the last time I’ve made love to my wife. Yesterday, my wife admitted to cheating on me for the last 10 years. 10 years. That seems like a long time, but i can’t comprehend it. It doesn’t even hurt. She says it’s because I’ve changed. I’m not the person I was. What have I been doing in the last 10 years? Outside of work, I really can’t say anything. Not being a proper husband. Not being ME. Who am I? What happened to me? I didn’t even ask for a divorce, or yell at her, or cry. I felt NOTHING.

Now I can feel a tear as I write this. But not because my wife has been cheating on me, but because I am now realising I have been dying inside. What happened to that fun-loving, risk-taking, energetic person that was me, hungering to change the world? I remember being asked on a date by the most popular girl in the school, but declining her for my now-wife. God, I was really popular with the girls in high school. In university/college too. But i stayed loyal. I didn’t explore. I studied everyday. Remember all that backpacking and book-writing I told you about?

That was all in the first few years of college. I worked part-time and splurged all that I had earned. Now, I save every penny. I don’t remember a time I spend anything on anything fun. On anything for myself. What do I even want now?My father passed ten years ago. I remember getting calls from mom, telling me he was getting sicker and sicker. I was getting busier and busier, on the verge of a big promotion. I kept putting my visit off, hoping in my mind he would hold on. He died, and I got my promotion. I haven’t seen him in 15 years.

When he died, I told myself it didn’t matter what I didn’t see him. Being an atheist, I rationalized that being dead, it wouldn’t matter anyway. WHAT WAS I THINKING?

Rationalizing everything, making excuses to put things off. Excuses. Procrastination. It all leads to one thing, nothing.

I rationalized that financial security was the most important thing. I now know, that it definitely is not. I regret doing nothing with my energy, when I had it. My passions. My youth. I regret letting my job take over my life. I regret being an awful husband, a money-making machine. I regret not finishing my novel, not travelling the world. Not being emotionally there for my son. Being a damn emotionless wallet. If you’re reading this, and you have a whole life ahead of you, please. Don’t procrastinate. Don’t leave your dreams for later. Relish in your energy, your passions. Don’t stay on the internet with all your spare time (unless your passion needs it).

Please, do something with your life while your young. DO NOT settle down at 20. DO NOT forget your friends, your family. Yourself. Do NOT waste your life. Your ambitions. Like I did mine. Do not be like me. Sorry for the long post, just had to get it out there. TL:DR I realised I let procrastination and money stop me from pursuing my passions when I was younger, and now I am dead inside, old and tired.

This is an amazing story, the reason you should read, listen and watch peoples account is that, you can learn from their mistakes and pick their courage, then run with it. Not for criticism, because everyone has a story to tell, if you don't have now, you might have later.

"For you to make a difference on earth, you need to be focused and have a strong will"

                                                                          -Topsy Gift

You know life is full of distractions, if you really want to have fun all the days of your life, the world has it all to give to you. At that moment nothing else matters to you. Even those giving you good advice might seem an enemy or envious people to you, but not until reality sets in front of you before you will know how that you have been wasting your life. If you want to invest your life and time, then you need  to restrain from a lot of life's distractions and distractors. Being focused and strong willed can help you withstand distractions and distractors. It can help you achieve your set goals. So be a man of focus and strong will so that you will be able to overcome all distractions and produce meaningful results in your life and in your generation.

"One of the greatest help you can give to yourself, is to kill distractions"

                                                                        - Topsy Gift

Thanks for stopping by to read this story, I hope you learnt something new? Go and impact your world. God bless you.