Lee Kuan Yew's Open Letter to Nigerian Leaders

By Simon Kolawole.

Dear Nigerian leaders, I want to appreciate your condolence messages to Singaporeans since my death on Sunday, March 22. Having died at the age of 91, I would not say I died young. In fact, life expectancy in Singapore, which I led as prime minister for 31 years, is 80 years for men and 85 for women. You may even say I spent an overtime of 11 years. 

I would say I lived a good life which I devoted to the progress of my country. I can confidently say that everything I did - including that for which I was heavily criticized for being "highhanded" - was for the benefit of my people, not for personal gain. I died a fulfilled man with no regrets whatsoever.

May I briefly tell you the story of Singapore so that you can understand why it is often told with admiration all over the world. We were a small, hopeless Island. We thought we were so poor it was impossible to survive on our own. 

We decided to go into a union with other countries to form Malaysia in 1963. But because of ethnic riots, we were expelled from the union in 1965, and I broke down in tears because I did not see how we were going to survive as a country. It was so bad we had no potable water.

 We relied on other countries for water to drink! We had no natural resources. No oil, no gold, no solid minerals, nothing. All we had were human beings - and ports.

Reference: https://allafrica.com/stories/201503301685.html

 

A WAKE UP CALL TO ALL NIGERIANS

This message may hurt you if you do not like the TRUTH.  I have come to realize that most Nigerian churches hold services on working days, and during working hours. And surprisingly these churches are filled with people who should be at their work places. The questions that came to my mind this morning when I saw some of these churches online were,

1.     Are these people not supposed to be at their work places?

2.    Could this be one of the reasons for our economic recession/failure?

3.    How can we grow into a 1^st world country, when all we do is to assembly ourselves in our different religious places and spend hours praying, dancing and catching emotions?

4.    Nigeria is in its poorest state, is this what we should be doing in order to boost our economy?

5.     Do these pastors really know that they are contributing to the poverty in the land?

6.     Are they acting out of ignorance or out of a dead conscience?

7.     Are morning services like this really necessary on working days, knowing that people are supposed to be at their various place of work?

8.     Do they know that they are only increasing the dependency ratio and not independence ratio of the people? 

9.    Does the scriptures really support abandoning ones work or vocation for the sake of religious gatherings?

 

Let’s consider a few verses of scriptures

 

Proverbs 12:11

¹¹ Hard work means prosperity;^[b] only a fool idles away his time.

 

Proverbs 12:24, 27  (TLB)

²⁴ Work hard and become a leader; be lazy and never succeed.

 

²⁷ A lazy man won’t even dress the game he gets while hunting, but the diligent man makes good use of everything he finds.

 

    And in another version, it says,

Proverbs 12:24 (Kjv)

²⁴ The hand of the diligent shall bear rule: but the slothful shall be under tribute.

Reasons why most people go to church (Building)

1: The genuine ones go seeking for God, thinking that he is only found there.

2: The genuine ones truly want to know God more and to seek his fellowship and friendship.

3: Genuine ones want to really serve God; they want all of him and nothing more. And that’s why when they newly repented; they went ahead tirelessly spreading the gospel by sharing tracts and preaching to others on the streets, inside buses and everywhere.

4: some other people go to church to catch feelings, get emotional and wet the floor with tears asking God to remember them and send them destiny helpers, while they refused to work on themselves to become destiny helpers to others.

5: others go to seek healing, deliverance, and breakthrough from all sorts of yokes and limitations

6: many others go to pray for rain and showers of blessings, miracle money, husbands, kids, spouses, jobs and the list continues…..

 And the problem is that, most of these pastors are not telling the people the TRUTH that it is only through hard work that one can become rich. They are rather telling them that one day of favor is better than a thousand years of labor. What is the end result of such kind of gospel? The pastors only get richer, while the masses get poorer.

Secondly, such kind of gospel, leads to a low GDP and economic recession. As I begin to conclude this article, I would like to quickly mention something that I think is needful. If all the numerous religious meetings are not for the purpose of preaching Christ and him crucified, then, we may just be another set of Pharisees and proponent of Judaism.

Frankly speaking, anyone who truly understands the gospel of Jesus Christ would agree with me, that the majority of our churches are not preaching Christ. They are preaching another gospel, and according to Paul the Apostle:

⁸ But though we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed.

⁹ As we said before, so say I now again, if any man preach any other gospel unto you than that ye have received, let him be accursed.”  

Galatians 1:8-9 (KJV).

From the foregoing, I would like you to ask yourself “what kind of messages has my pastor been preaching?”.

If you are truthful to yourself, you would know that he perhaps has been preaching messages like, every enemy, every demon/Satan, every evil, must die by fire.  And miracle job, miracle money, miracle husband, miracle wives, and miracle children etc. And because people are ignorantly seeking after these things that Jesus said don’t seek after, “Matthew 16:4 a, An evil and adulterous generation seeketh after a sign; “the pastors are just using the peoples ignorance to manipulate them.

Only pagans seek after miracles. And it is obvious that majority of people who go to church are pagans and do not know God.

Now, the question is, what is the message of Christ? Apostle paul puts it this way:

Now, brothers and sisters, I want to remind you of the gospel I preached to you, which you received and on which you have taken your stand. 2 By this gospel you are saved, if you hold firmly to the word I preached to you. Otherwise, you have believed in vain.

3 For what I received I passed on to you as of first importance: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, 4 that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures.

1 Cor 15:1-4

Dear believers, you do not need your middle men (pastors) before you can get to God. Seek to know God; he is Omnipresence meaning he is everywhere. He lives in you and dwells in you and can hear you.

Jesus Christ chose you before the foundations of the earth according to (Ephesians 1:4). He loves you and would be happy if you are fulfilling your divine purpose here on earth.  And your divine purpose could be any area of life you have passion to change or make better for the glory of God. It could be in researching and finding solutions to the problems that has plagued humanity. It could be in science, technology, teaching, treating sick people (doctors, midwives, nurses, etc.) engineering, astronauts, pilots, media, music, politics, farming, designing, and many more. All of these areas of passion could make any nation great, bring joy to humanity also bring glory to God.

When we all are busy working hard to fulfill our different callings, we will together make the world a better place. And it would be easier to preach Christ since we are the best in our different areas of calling. Everyone would want to know your God because you have results, and because of your true compassion to changing the world.

 Let’s all wake up and “Build a Great NIGERIA". Until all hands are on deck doing this, we are only moving to a deeper poverty state.

Blessings!

Written by Topsy Gift

                                                               

                                   

                                  LOVE ! LOVE !! LOVE !!!

            Love 💕 love 💕 love 💕
Men how can you say you love a lady yet act the way you do?🙄🙄

If you are too official or reserve to play with your wife, any where, anytime, exactly what do we call that? Holiness? Gentleness? Shyness?

Hmmmmm.... I'm not sure what to call it, how about you suggest to me what to call it...🤔
Have you heard your spouse asking questions like this:

-Honey why don't you like playing with me?
-Honey why don't you like jokes
-Honey the only times you remember playing with me is when you want to have sex. But why?
Young man, you keep giving her excuses how that you are a very busy man and also that you are not the playful type vice versa 🙄🙄🙄hmmm wow 😳.

.....ok my question is:
Should we blame the man or blame the woman?

  My answer....

-ladies and gentlemen if you are a playful person or a lively person, please don't go and marry a man or woman who does the opposite. One who loves to be on their own or are not fun to be with.

-Marry someone who is proud of you anytime, anywhere because some of the reasons why most men don't play with their wives is because they are not proud of them. But why marry a woman you are not proud of?🤷‍♀️ oh!! humans are complicated beings (This does not apply to people who playing is not in their temperament).

-If he plays with you only when he wants to have sex, then he is using you and does not care about your happiness. It is another form of abuse🙄

-And to women who are not bold enough to speak out. Please stop dying in silence, listen if you continue crying in your closet and not letting him how you feel, believe me when everyone wakes up tomorrow and can't find you breathing, it might take just few days, weeks, months or a year he will remarry.
And the truth is that you never get to tell him the truth about what you want and most times if he brings in another woman like you into that house, she will still suffer same thing because no one ever told him what he is doing wrong. 😥

-Get him books to read about relationships. You guys can even read it together. Watch relationship movies together, send him relationship messages.

- And if you have done everything possible for him to understand what you really want and he is not paying attention or taking it serious, well go ahead and take your wise decision because you can't see yourself dying in depression.

Don't be too holy, gentle or should I say shy to play with your spouse anywhere, anytime enjoy the gift that God gave you. No one knows tomorrow, that might be the last time you will see that person . Let your everyday be a memorable one.

Some people even if their spouse dies today, they won't even miss them while in the spirit world 😂that's how Spiritual they are🤦‍♀️

But most importantly, marry your kind, that fun and loving person that you want and enjoy your home 😘😘
#Virtuousandpurposefulwomeninternational says

Be wise!! and speak out!!
Silence is dangerous!!
Enjoy your home!! 😘😘

Written by : Topsy Gift

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        .....AND YOU FORGOT TO USE YOUR BRAIN !

....Just as we can't say we love the truth when we can't stand for the truth and speak it out anywhere, anytime, that's the same way we can't say we love someone if we can't stand to say it anywhere, anytime and not just to say it but to live it out.

Here is my little advice for the ladies...

-Don't be too busy looking at his nice outfit or his cuteness overload🙄 that you forget to use your brain.
The question is, what exactly do you want in your home? Does joy, peace and happiness mean anything to you?

-Don't be too busy thinking about the way he talks or how eloquent he sounds that you forget to use your brain.

-Don't be too busy thinking about the frequent gifts 🎁 he buys for you that you forget to use your brain.

-Don't be too busy thinking about the beautiful names he calls you that you forget to use your brain.

-Don't be too busy thinking about how much money he gives to you on daily, weekly or monthly basis that you forget to use your brain. The question is, does your happiness lie beyond those material things?

-Don't be too busy thinking about the fact that he takes you round the world or that he shows off with you. He tells his friends, this is my bae, that you forget to use your brain. Remember! Everything can be arranged!!! Like set up( stage acting)

-Don't be too busy telling your friends I believe him, he already showed me to his family and friends and you forgot to use your brain.

Listen up sis ! I can go on and on but I hope that you get the message.

Be careful darling sis!
Deception is real!

Tomorrow might be too late to undo the past. But today is the best day to make the right decisions and take the right steps.

Some people might say "when he does shit,(vice versa) " I go get a divorce" let me tell you something sweetheart, most times divorce isn't the solution to your problem.
I heard a guy saying " I love ❤️ her but if we get married and she continues that behavior believe me "I will divorce her in two years " and I said to myself🤔
-why going into the marriage in the first place?
-Why working your ass hard to say "yes I do" when yo know you are getting a divorce in two years if the other person does not change his/her behavior?
-And what's the guarantee that he/ she would change?
-Why spend all that money having an exclusive wedding ceremony knowing that you are going to divorce her?
-why don't you invest the money and make profit in two years time?

The decisions you make today can save you a lot tomorrow.

#virtuousandpurposefulwomeninternational are saying:
Be wise! And don't love ❤️ blindly!!

Written by: Topsy Gift

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                                        PAMELA WHY?

......oh oh oh.....No no....Pamela why?
Let's eat the mugu...let's eat the mugu...who born the maga🙄 Pamela Why? 🤦‍♀️oh sorry I mean ladies why?😂
He tells you...oh can we go out later today to go have some lunch? And then you say sure that won't be a problem.

Just before you left he says that's my card call me when you are ready. You collected it and nodded sure I will leaving him with a sweet smile 😁

He gets into his car feeling excited, he hopes it works out between you two.

You picked up the phone and called your fellow eat and run friends....I mean like hit and run drivers 🙄( birds of a feather) to come eat their own portion of the national cake 🤦‍♀️ Pamela why (ladies)?

Your friends hailed and you felt excited. later that same day you guys went to eat. He didn't mind you came with your friends, he foot the bills all the same.

After the lunch you got home thinking about how to continue milking this guy seeing that he seems to have too much money at his disposal, hmmmm🤔🤔 and he got home thinking if you would really like him.

He has money but he is looking for a genuine woman he could call a wife with whom he could spend his money.

Ahaaaaaa....you finally arrive at a conclusion on how you would make him buy a car for you and if possible build or buy house for you and your parents.

You quickly wrote down your plans and started keeping in touch with him so as to win his heart ❤️

You seduced him thinking that it would be better to tie him down with sex but he kept refusing to have sex with you and one day he knelt down and said baby please would you marry me? Ohhh you quickly faked the excitement just to make him happy.

If a guy ask you out and you agreed and then he lets you know his mind and you are sure that you will not ever have anything to do with this guy, please stop giving him false hope. It could be that the guy truly loves you and that is why he is doing everything to make you happy.

He was happy 😄 his dreams are coming true but your plans are getting closer. Out of excitement and from the heart ❤️ of true love, he got you a car and later along the line you said you want him to fix your parents house in the village, he did it for you and also got you one in the city so you don't border paying rents.

You told him you want to do a four years course in the university and he says let's get married first, you got upset and he apologized and said ok after your university studies, you smiled and gave him a kiss 😘 and after four years.
Hurraaaay👩🏻‍🎓 and he says let's get married now and you said oh no baby please forgive but I would like to do my masters degree program.

He felt a little bad and you kissed him and begged him. You said but baby it's just two years, ok no problem as long as it will make you happy he said.

And two years later, baby come let's go shop for our wedding 👰 and then you told him you want to think about it, that you don't want to rush into marriage. Meanwhile you are still in touch with your friends and they are still advising you on what to do.

The young man kept asking"when will you be ready for the marriage?"
You started giving him attitude, saying he is bugging you!😳 really?😳 you eventually told him that you are sorry, you can't marry him😱....

This story is an example of how most ladies use/treat men in our society today. It is so pathetic to know that most women even take pride in doing this😥😥and they say "Yeah we ate him dry"

Were you called into the ministry of eating men dry? 🤦‍♀️

If you don't love a guy or don't have any feelings for him, why would you hang around for his money? 🤷‍♀️that is wickedness.

As a result such attitude:

Some men have become mean towards women
-Some men have become drunkards/Rapist
-Some men have vowed never to get married but have promised to inflict pain on every woman that comes their way
-Most men have vowed never to be faithful to their spouse because of their past experience
-Some men have become bullies

Dear woman, I am sure that you are aware that by exhibiting wicked and deceptive attitude like these, you are invariably contributing to some of the societal disasters that we are facing today. What kind of society are we building for the next generation?

Please let's make it right by amending our ways and teaching the next generation the right way to go. And together we can make the world a better place.

#Virtuousandpurposefulwomeninternational saying:

Be wise ! And stay blessed !

Please share share !!!

Written by: Topsy Gift

SAY NO TO CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE !!!

 

Child sexual abuse has been in existence for ages but has recently become a trending topic on social media and in various news platforms.

I think this is a warning to all parents and everyone who cares to know!!!

Some people might say " oh it's not my business" or " my children are well brought up " well let me ask you these few questions:

1. How well do you think you know your children?
2. When you were a kid were they things your parents told you not to do that you still went ahead to do?
3. How well do you know your spouse, son, brother, sister, nephew, niece, cousin, aunt, uncle, visitors, customers and neighbor?
4. How well do you know your children's friends?
5. How often do you teach them about the importance of their private parts and why no one is permitted to touch it( I mean to your male and female children)
5. How often do you teach your teenagers about sexual urge and why they feel the way they feel?
6. Why do you think that rebuking a child when he/she says some certain words like (fuck), (Toto), (prick) (sucking) (fingering) and not truly teaching the child what it meant that the so called rebuke will solve the problem?
7. Have you been observing any changes from your kid since the last time they started attending that school, religious places, friends house and holiday trip with family friends or aunt and uncle?
8. Do you see your bold and outspoken child suddenly go moody and scared or lost in thoughts ?
9. How often do your kids spend money that you or your spouse never gave to them? Because some of the victims of sexual abuse especially( teenagers) are given gift or money, in order not to let anyone know about it and most times these abuser still go ahead to continue having sexual intercourse with these girls in as much as they pay them not to tell anyone.
10. How often do you teach your children the importance of contentment and the dignity of labor (hard work )?
These few questions can help you become more vigilant about your kids and also help to imbibe good virtue into them.
Join virtuous and purposeful women international group on Facebook where we talk about the value of women, and the girl child.
We also stand for the right of women and the girl child in our society today. Although we also talk about women and girls, we also talk about fathers, husbands and the male child.
We enlighten them with all the necessary knowledge needed to become better husbands and fathers, and teach them how to raise well behaved kids.
I believe that together we will build a better society for our children. 

Say no to child sexual abuse !!!

Written by: Topsy Gift
Founder of: Building Minds Organization, and Virtuous and purposeful women international

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MY TRIBUTE TO MY GRANDMA

Growing up as a child, I use to visit my grandma with my parents, although I was not really brought up by her. When I became a grown up, I then started to visit her myself more regularly. I spent only a little time with my grandma because we lived in a city far away from where she was staying; we only visited during Christmas periods. I have come to know what a lovely woman she is. I am honored to get to say a few words about my grandmother. She was an outgoing and fun-loving woman who enjoyed the company of her friends and family. Grandma was someone who doesn’t discriminate between her grandchildren. 

Grandma treated all her grandchildren with the same amount of love and care not minding whether we were from rich or poor homes. Grandma understood that life is beyond the now. Hence, she always advised us to desist from wrong habits and to do only what was right. Grandma was a great cook. We always enjoyed her delicious meals whenever we visited. Grandma wouldn’t bear watching us stay hungry. Never!!! She would do everything possible to make sure you have more than enough to eat.

My grandma was a disciplinarian, who never spared the rod. That although was for our own good. She would always correct us in a way she felt was best for us.

Grandma was a very hard working woman. She believed in hard work and taught us how to be hard working.  

Grandma had a beautiful heart. She loved God and loved people. She would do everything to bring all her family together and establish peace among all family members. If only all grandmas would be like her, then grandchildren would live never to forget their grandmas.

I thank God for giving us such a wonderful grandma. Though you are gone, you will never be forgotten.

With love from my heart, I say Adieu (Goodbye) grandma. Till we meet again on the other side of eternity.

Your granddaughter,

       Chinenye Godgift Ogedegbe

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